How To Become The Best At The World At What You Do

The road to your dreams can look long and hard and twisty and difficult. But in your heart you know exactly what you want and what it would look like once you achieved it.

That same road also looks filled with traffic filled with competitors all looking to achieve the same destination.

There seems to be so many people. Thousands of them. Who want the same thing you do.

But how do you set yourself apart and get yourself in that top 1% who actually go on and make it happen? And do it fast enough so that you are rewarded with your progress and avoid getting frustrated by the lack of progress and quit?

How do you go from where you are and leapfrog over all of those similar wannabee’s who seem to be cluttering your path to success?

Don’t Give So Much Respect To Your Competitors

We tend to give more credit to our competitors where none needs to be given.

The bottom line is that we tend to compare our inside fears to their outside performance.

We wonder, “How on earth did they do that?!”

As we marinate in our own doubts and fears and wonder why our last performance wasn’t as good as theirs we forget that they are dealing with the same challenges…they are just different ones.

Most of your competitors will not be hard to pass. They are their biggest competitor. Their mind will quickly fall prey to their own doubts and fears and limiting beliefs.

It is not their competitors who will hold them back…it is themselves.

Most people quit well before they really get into anything. They may look like they are doing the same things as you but on the inside their mind is elsewhere. Distracted. Their lack of intention while doing a similar drill or task is what matters long term.

For many they are are just going through the motions on a path to being mediocre. They may be better than you, now, but you will catch up and then pass them.

They lack a strategic plan to reach that 1%. Their results are like a bottle of alcohol that soothes their ego but muddies their thinking.

There is a saying that goes, “he who holds his breath the longest, wins”. Be patient. Play the long game. Hold your breath.

I am about to give you the three stage framework to go from the mediocre middle to the top 10%. Whether you are an athlete in sports or in life this framework will first take you to the top 5% and beyond.

But first…

Listen To Your Gut

Everyone who has made it to the top 1% in ANYTHING will admit that, along the way, there was a voice or a vision or a feeling that guided them along the way.

No matter how doubtful they may have felt there was always a glimmer of hope that reminded them of what it would feel like when they reached their goals.

You have that too.

Some days it’s strong. Other days it’s weak. But it’s there.

And not matter how badly you may be feeling, with some work, you can call up those feelings and get back to that headspace that inspires you.

Some people NEVER have this. They are so out of touch with who they are or what they really want to become they lack the energy boost that trusting your gut gives you.

In some spiritual practices people will reveal that this is God or Energy or Source guiding you. It could be your dead Uncle Jerry. I don’t really care and neither should you.

Just know that those feelings are not to be dismissed or discarded. They are your internal compass that drives you forward. Listen to it. Trust it.

And then…

Stage One: Be The Apprentice

In the old Industrial Age it was common practice for a man to take on the role of the apprentice. A seven year journey to become world class at whatever field they had chosen.

There was no other path really. You knew that to get…there…you were going to have to go through seven years of…suck.

In today’s world of social media and instant gratification this whole idea of “apprenticeship” has really been lost.

We can grab our phone right now and see athletes doing amazing feats. Entrepreneurs with billion dollar companies.

We rarely see their early struggles. Their first, failed companies. Their botched attempts.

Being The Apprentice gives you some of the best psychological “nutrients” that you can have. Just like nutrients from food, struggling through the apprenticeship phase teaches you:

Autonomy: Control over your own choices and learning from the results both good and bad.

Competence: Gaining joy from overcoming challenges and taking advantage of opportunities gives you feelings of growth and development. The entire video game industry is built on the human need to feel competence.

Relatedness: Dealing with teammates in sports and in life gives us the opportunity to play and interact with others.

1. Amateur Before Pro

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” — Chinese Proverb

Look at any YouTube star today and you can go back and find their first video. Horrible as it may seem.

Each one of those stars of today will tell you about their first videos and how horrid they were. How the lighting was bad. The sound, not good. Their voice…terrible.

But they started.

The truth is every single one of them embraced the fact that if they just started…if they just put themselves out there…that one day, someday, they would have a breakthrough.

For some a single video went viral and then the trajectory of their life changed. But for others, it was a long, slow grind that led to a cumulative accumulation of work that led to more traffic.

You must be willing to put yourself out there and embrace the suck. Embrace the mistakes. And know, deep down, that most of your competitors won’t have that tolerance.

They will quit before they get started and before they see the fruits of their labour.

Across all school systems in North America administrators will tell you that there is an incredible drop in resiliency. An overall attitude in stick-to-it-tive-ness.

Most people lack the tolerance to be an amateur before they can become a pro. They want to be perfect…now, but lack the ability to put in the work to get to perfect. (Perfect never comes, however.)

For all of those YouTubers they believed that if they put in enough quantity that quality and videos would come.

2. Improve Your Inputs: Get Educated

When you listen to your gut and trust those feelings that lead you to your dreams you will start to take things seriously. Your brain will help you by noticing people/places/things that can help you reach your goal.

“When the student is ready the teacher will appear.” -Buddha

When you commit to your goals to be the best you can be at this thing that you love, people will come out of the woodwork to share with you bits of advice to move you forward.

Think of this, you are where you are right now because of the inputs in your life.

This can be people or music or books you’ve read. It can be internet articles like this or YouTube videos.

The bottom line is you must improve your inputs.

Get around better people. Get coached by people who can take you to the next level. Look for ways to improve all of your abilities and not get sucked into the one’s you like.

That’s where you begin to outpace your competitors who won’t 1) decide what they really want and therefore 2) won’t upgrade their inputs.

You will quickly pass these competitors liked parked cars on the highway.

3. Just Because Everyone Is Doing It Doesn’t Make It Right

“When you see everyone headed in one direction you’ll be better off heading in the opposite direction”

Most rules are designed, not for elite performance, but to keep people inside of a box. Or to keep the stragglers from slipping so far behind.

When I was on the Olympic team, each and every year we had physical testing standards.

These “standards” were typically tied to the funding we got. Score well on that push up test and you’re on the team. Fail the test and…well.

But within the team there were athletes who hated push ups. Weren’t very good at them. Didn’t like training for them.

And then there were those of us who would run in front of an oncoming truck to make our Olympic dreams come true. Training for push ups was actually a hindrance to our goals.

But it was part of “team policy” so we had to do them.

You have a limited amount of resources to compete for your dreams. Whether it’s a sport or a job promotion. Time, energy and money are limited and you must be strategic in how you spend those resources.

You know the things that you need to do to make this dream happen, and the odds are there are things you know you should be doing that everyone else isn’t doing.

That’s the direction you need to head in.

Remember, your competition is so focused on each other that they are stuck in a pool of mediocrity.

Instead of following the rules as everyone seems to see them, trust your gut and create your own rules. Remove the friction. Don’t worry what others think of you because what they say about you and what you do says more about them than it does about you.

4. Punch The Clock

There is a rather unfair observation of factory workers who get paid by the hour. They show up and punch their time card on a clock at the entrance and start to get paid. They are paid for the time they put in and not the outcomes they produce.

And you will have days where you don’t feel you are getting equal return for the efforts you are putting in. That’s when you have to show up and punch the clock. Put in the work. Be consistent.

It’s great to have a goal. You need to have a goal. When I decided to start Mental Performance School I had a big goal and a big vision. But I knew that to reach that goal I was going to have to put in consistent work day in and day out.

This is a marathon. Compound interest. You are the rocket that uses up most of its fuel to break through the atmosphere and then it…

soars.

Conclusion: Stage One

These first four steps will set you apart from your competition. These are not meant to make you feel superior…

just the opposite.

These first four stages are there to make you feel humble. To realize that you aren’t as smart as you think you are. To encourage you that your results may not come quickly and that they will take consistent effort until your breakthroughs come.

But that being said, these first four steps should but you on a trajectory to pass 90% of your competition.

Stage Two: Becoming One of the Best. The Top 10%

When you focus on your competition your are distracted by the mediocre middle. The key is to only seek advice from those who have made it to where you want to go and most of your competition isn’t there yet so why would you possibly be influenced by them?

It’s easy to get distracted and to have “fear of missing out” syndrome. You must stay true to your gut and to the inputs of those you respect and who can lead you to where you want to go.

You can get to the top 10% just by out-working those around you. But to get to the top 5% is when you need to innovate. A leader who innovates and who doesn’t follow. This is where you become an artist and not the factory worker.

It is at this stage where you are constantly pushing your own boundaries. You are on the leading edge of thought, which feels really weird. It’s hard and it’s lonely. This is where people look up to you further up the ladder and it’s easy to take shots at your rear end.

At this stage you will start to develop an intuition about what you have been taught up to this point. It’s where you will start to object to what you’ve been taught and the teachers who have taught you.

Now is not the time to be disrespectful of those who have gotten you this far. To the contrary, you should thank them. If they can help you innovate from here…that is fantastic. In fact many of your coaches up to this point may have been craving to work with an athlete like you and take you further. Respect that. They may have untapped coaching abilities not yet seen.

If your intuition is guiding you to a higher level, trust it and go.

5. Double Down On Your Goals: More Creation. Less Consumption

When you get to the top 5% success becomes less about hard work and perseverance (although they are still important).

It becomes more about a feeling.

Every aspect of your life will either help you towards that feeling or it will take you away. This is where you double down on what is working and cut everything else that doesn’t.

Friends. Family. Hobbies. Food. Education. Training.

Everything is under scrutiny.

This is where your true “art” comes out. Where you go from just “playing” to becoming elite. Where you start to tap into forces outside of you to help you reach the 1%.

Most athletes in sports and life are in a reactive mode. Like a goalie getting peppered with shots, they aren’t dictating the play they are reacting to the play.

They are stuck in a subconscious loop most of their day. They get up on the same side of the bed and take the same steps to the bathroom. They are so good at navigating their house they could do it with their eyes closed.

It’s time to become more of a creator and less of a consumer. To challenge yourself more instead of expecting to take it easy. Your competitors will be taking it easy only focusing on one aspect of their development. You will be designing your life so that every aspect of your day takes you closer to becoming that artist who reaches their goals.

True masters in anything realize that they are a whole. Not individual parts.

When I work with athletes they are shocked to realize I want to know about their sleep, their health, their relationships, their school, etc. Why? It ALL matters.

6. Train. Recover. Compete. Recover. Repeat.

Elite athletes in sports and life realize that there are times when they are on and times when they are off.

My Coach Charles Staley taught me that in order to have peaks you must have valleys.

When you are focusing on improving your results you are not focused on just being busy. An elite marathoner doesn’t run all day every day. No. They train strategically and then they rest. Then they run a race to see how their training is serving them.

Then they rest.

They say the silence between the notes is what makes the music.

We know from brain research that getting psychologically detached from your work is critical to being attached when you work. Just like an athlete is more apt to have a great result if they have taken time away to mentally and physically recharge.

If you are fatigued…your work suffers.

If you are so engrossed in your work…your relationships will suffer.

If you’re burnt out you’re less likely to put in your best effort and you might not get started at all as this study shows.

Giving yourself the right amount of time to recover mentally, emotionally and physically is critical to returning to a high level of practice and peak performance.

Stage Three: Getting To The Top 5%

Here is where you separate yourself even further from the mediocre middle. It is where you establish the mindset and the routines to predict your consistent performance and to push yourself past perceived barriers.

While others around you will randomly prepare for their Game Day performances you will know that the reward comes from the preparation and not the Game Day.

By continuing to “do the work”, you will have consistent performances that will reward you above and beyond what those around you will do.

This doesn’t mean you will be perfect day in and day out. But what it will give you is a consistent foundation to perform from. With that consistency you will have solid feedback that you can improve off of

7: Learn To How To Get To Your Peak State

You have an optimal zone of performance that is unique to you and we call that “Peak State.”

Your Game Day might be giving a presentation. Or taking an exam. Or running a race.

Game Day is that day where you need to be at your best mentally, emotionally and physically to perform at your best.

But every day is different.

Depending on a number of factors, you’re going to feel differently each and every day.

And how you feel affects your performance.

You might have heard the term “getting in the zone”. Some call this “flow.” Whatever you call it, it is a window of mental, emotional and physical readiness that you are trying to get into BEFORE you perform.

To perform at your best on your Game Day it’s critical to have some sort of pre-performance checklist that you go through to trigger your brain and your body that Game Day is coming and it’s time to get ready.

The more elite you become the longer these routines may become. Your pre-performance routines serve two purposes: 1) to get your body ready to perform and 2) to get yourself mentally and emotionally ready to perform.

As you get better and better at knowing your body and what it takes to get it ready your pre-performance routine will vary and lengthen or shorten depending on how you feel.

The really interesting fact is that, as you mature, you will be able to get yourself mentally and emotionally ready in shorter and shorter amounts of time. You will literally be able to “snap yourself into it.”

Having a conscious routine triggers your brain and your body which in turn regulates your emotional state.

8. Learn To Suffer

Of all the athletes I work with, my endurance athletes are some of the best examples of humans who have learned to suffer.

These athletes will compete for hours and hours and in that time the pain they experience in their muscles would put other athletes to shame.

Sure, many athletes get sore AFTER a Game Day or a Practice Day but the suffering they have within a session is short. But for the endurance athletes they will experience pain for hours.

These athletes actually get to a point where they not only look forward to that pain, but they crave it.

And that’s a lesson for all of us. When things get difficult and we begin to feel like we are suffering that is usually the signal for us to persist.

These endurance athletes will describe this state of pain and suffering as “the Hurt Locker”. They even set up rooms in their house with their bikes on trainers and treadmills as “the Pain Cave.”

These athletes don’t fear these feelings, they learn to enjoy them. And they actually become their new state of “normal”.

This is one of my favourite quotes:

“Mental resilience is arguably the most critical trait of a world-class performer, and it should be nurtured continuously. Left to my own devices, I am always looking for ways to become more and more psychologically impregnable. When uncomfortable, my instinct is not to avoid the discomfort but to become at peace with it. My instinct is always to seek out challenges as opposed to avoiding them.”

— Josh Waitzkin — American Chess Player, martial arts competitor, author.

When you start to feel uncomfortable this is when the real work begins. The aim is to not feel good all the time but to push yourself so you can feel good where others feel uncomfortable. That is where your performance will begin to surpass theirs.

That’s when you start moving into the top 1%.

9. Shoot For a Feeling

The best performances are transcendent. They rise above what others have done before.

In sports, business, and life we see examples of people every…single…day who are pushing limits. Exceeding boundaries.

They are literally and figuratively at the leading edge of thought. (Stick with me.)

You may not be able to relate to a performance like that just yet.

And here’s why.

You are focusing on the work. On the effort. On the doing of the thing.

You are trying to out-effort your competition and that will only get you so far.

Truly great performances come from a feeling. Where the body is less particle and more wave. We start talking about energy and faith.

We describe these experiences as “out of body”, as if someone or something else has taken the reigns. We say things like, “ I just shut my brain off and my body took over.”

Conclusion

When your Game Day arrives it is time to stop the conscious thinking. Leave that for your preparation days. Now is not the time to figure it out or dwell on past failures. Now is the time to let your body do what you have trained it to do but to release it so that it can go beyond your mental handcuffs.

Game Day is the time to shoot for a feeling. To arrive happy and to compete because you just love what you are doing.

From there you will compete in the 1%. No work. No worry. No fear. Just…

being.

Olympian - Jonathan Edwards

Olympian - Jonathan Edwards

Challenge Master

Olympian Jonathan Edwards is the Chief Challenge Master at OvercomeAnyChallenge.com.  An author, Olympic Speaker, blogger, podcaster and more he's been dedicating his life to helping people overcome any challenge using the power of games and sport.  He looks forward to hearing your story and the challenges you are planning to overcome.  

How To Set Goals For Your Best Year Ever

While you may have set some goals for 2018, you don’t think they’re really going to happen do you? I mean, really.  The one’s you set last year didn’t stick either…or did they.

When you set goals for this year it’s easy to get hung up on the one’s that didn’t come true from last year.  Dwelling on this fact for too long can even cause a fair bit of “beatyourselfupedness.”  But I can guarantee you that when you look back on last year you will see…something positive.  And probably a lot positive if you give yourself some time.

 

Rarely do people keep a really good accounting of all that went right in the last year.  Using an app like WinStreak can help you do that.  Or just writing little wins in your calendar can help.  But if you haven’t done that it may take you a bit to look back through the year and see all that went right, versus what you missed.

A goal I’ve had for a long time is to weigh 172 pounds which was what I weighed when I competed in the Olympics.  It’s a number that’s been in my head for a long time and yet I tend to sabotage myself when I reach 185 pounds.  The most I ever weighed was 208 when I was bobsledding!

So I wrote it down again for this year.  “I am light and alive at 172!” says the goal.  And yet when I wrote it down AGAIN for 2017, it kind of bummed me out.  “Sure, yeah.  You’ll make THAT happen.”  But as I sat with that thought for a while I realized that what was getting me down was this thought, “Can I lose that much weight?”

By looking back on this past year I realized I CAN lose that weight.  By using the Withings App on my phone and a Smart Scale that I picked up in the Apple store, I could see that earlier this year my weight crept up to 202 lbs!  And today I weigh 187.  That’s fifteen pounds!

So I could look back and get bummed and beat myself up and think, “You missed your goal again you idiot.”  By looking back I could see that I am fully capable of losing 15 pounds.  I did it before and I can do it again.  And guess what losing fifteen pounds again means…I’d weigh 172!

If this sounds familiar, it’s time to have a look at all of the good things that happened last year BEFORE you set the goals for this year.  Doing an annual review of all the good things that happened to you last year is critical to help you create momentum for the year ahead. Some people will tell you that it’s not good to look at the past.  “The past is past!” they will say.  But I disagree. By doing a quick review you can make adjustments to move forward.  That’s what great athletes do and that’s what you can do too.

Create Your WinStreak List For Last Year

I teach my coaching clients to create a WinStreak list for the year.  Ideally, you’ve been adding wins to your calendar, but if not…here’s a list of Trigger Quesetions to help you remember the wins you had this year.

  • What projects did you finish this past year?
  • What new projects did you think about to finish this year?
  • What projects did you complete for others?
  • What fun events did you go to or create this past year?
  • What were some of the cool things you did with your family this year?
  • What were some improvements you made in your home?
  • What were some cool leisure activities you took part in this past year?
  • What were some improvements you made in your health?
  • What were some personal development achievements you made?
  • What are some new clothes you purchased?
  • If you have pets…what were some fun things you did with your pet(s) this year?
  • What were some new things you learned this past year?
  • What good things happened in any of the relationships you have? Family? Friends? Coworkers?
  • What else can you think of?

Reduce “Goal Getting Molasses”

When you have negative thoughts about your goals from the past, it creates a very sluggish feeling to creating new goals for this year.  By using this technique to pull all the good out of last year it will give you momentum heading into this year.  By being grateful and happy about what you have achieved your more likely to be positive looking forward to new goals this coming year.  Even the tough ones!

Set Goals In All Areas Of Your Life

Like a bicycle wheel your life needs to have some sort of balance.  It’s ok to spend time focusing on your big goals for a while but not at the expense of other areas of your life.  For example, it’s ok to start that new business but if you leave your relatiionships for too long they may fall apart.  Same holds true for your health.  So it’s important to set goals in all areas of your life and not neglect any one area for too long.

Here are 7 areas of your life that I want you to set goals in:

1. Set Goals For Your Health and Fitness

Your ability to reach all of your goals starts with a health and happy YOU!.  There is no shortage of information to help you set goals to improve your health and fitness in 2018.  As I mentioned above, my goal is to weigh 172 pounds by March 28.  What’s yours?

2. Set Goals For Recreation

It may seem odd to start your goal setting with how many days you’re going to take off, but as Dan Sullivan of Strategic Coach tells us, you have to have free days.  How much time are you going to take off from your work and your career?  Where will you go?  What will you do?  And with who?

3. Set Goals For Your Relationships

A recent study revealed that being married was no longer a recipe to being healthier or happier than being single.  But we can all agree that having someone to hang out with and do fun things with helps make our work life that much more purposeful.  Think of the ways you can improve your relationships with your friends, family or significant others.

4. Set Goals For Your Work and Career

These goals will be tied to your financial goals, but possibly not.  What goals are you looking to achieve this year?  A promotion?  A raise?  Recognition?  What projects related to your work and your career are you looking to complete this year?

5. Set Goals For Your Financial Life

Many of my clients are looking to get their financial house in order.  How much do you want to make in 2018?  Do you need to create a side hustle to reach your goals?  Take some time to get a solid picture of your financial situation and set goals to improve it.

6. Set Personal Goals

While you’re looking to achieve all of these great things in your life, it’s easy to forget about…you!  What do you want to do this year just because you want to do it?  What do you want to learn about yourself?  Maybe you want to learn to play an instrument or a second language.  It’s easy with Smartphones in our pockets do learn something cool.  I’m looking to learn how to play the Ukulele. How about you?

Set One Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG)

Once you’ve set goals in all areas of your life, there is usually one big goal that by achieving that one goal a bunch of other goals will fall into place behind it.  We call it the B-HAG.  It’s big.  It might even scare you.  But you know that once it’s done, then a lot of really great things will start to happen.

Tell me in the comments below, what is one big goal you’d like to achieve in 2018.  It doesn’t have to be your BHAG, but if you want to share it go right ahead.  Remember, all of your goals are possible.

To recap, take a look at everything you accomplished this past year.  Give yourself a pat on the back no matter how big or small they may seem to you.  Then go ahead and set goals for 2018 in all areas of your life.  And finally, what’s that Big Hairy Audacious Goal you’ve been sitting on.  The one you know if you made it come true would make things extraordinary.

 

 

 

 

Why You Procrastinate

Why You Procrastinate

Why You Procrastinate

When it comes to procrastination you can either beat yourself up about it or realize that everyone procrastinates.  Here’s why.

[00:00:00] Hey guys it’s Jonathan and welcome. Listen today I want to talk about why we procrastinate.We All

We All Procrastinate

[00:00:08] First thing is that we all procrastinate. OK, everybody does. The truth is that if you the only way you don’t procrastinate is if you don’t have any goals you don’t have any ambition to be or do or have more than what you have now. If you think about it, if you wiped out anything every you every ambition you ever had you wouldn’t be procrastinating. You just be kind of hanging out. Right. You wouldn’t have much of a life. But the truth is, is that anybody who has a goal to be more do more have more, they have aspirations. They’re going to now have to prioritize what it is they want to do. Right.

Even The Most Productive People Are Procrastinators

[00:00:49] So what happens is some of the most productive people I know are procrastinators. And what happens is we tend to look at those people whether you see them online you see them on TV or read a book about them like you think like, wow those guys are amazing they must never procrastinate. The truth is, everybody procrastinates, and what happens is we get in these funks where we think, if only I knew their secret, then I would be better. And that’s not really the case because they don’t have necessarily a secret. They’re dealing with their own procrastination as well.

You Lack Clarity

[00:01:24] The number one cause of procrastination is lack of clarity. If you think about it, if you have this goal, this thing you want to accomplish and you’re putting it off. Really. The reason you’re putting it off is because you are not clear on either the outcome., or the process with which to make that goal happen. Right, so you put it off a little bit. Let’s think about something that most people deal with it’s like you know they want to workout or they want to lose some weight. And they know there’s this thing that they shouldn’t be eating but they’re eating it anyway. And what happens is that that they’re not fully clear on what it is that this thing that they’re eating is causing them. Either that you know like for me I love having a Pepsi or love having a Coke. It’s just my it’s my that it makes me feel good it brings back all these memories and a lot of times procrastination is just that it’s a stress reliever. It’s something that you know that by not doing it or by doing something that’s keeping the goal from happening, it makes us feel good. It may relieve stress or it may be something we’re just putting off because we’re not fully clear about what this what this doing or not doing is causing us. If you’re clear about your outcome there’s very rarely procrastination. Because when you’re clear, you’re excited. You’re excited about this thing that’s about to happen. You’re about to do. And so you you do it because you’ve got so much clarity that this thing that you’re supposed to be doing trumps all these other things that you think you should be doing. Right.

When You’re Not Clear Things Move To Second Place

[00:03:09] When you’re not clear, that thing that you should be doing is now below all these other things. You may be cleaning the house. You may be doing the laundry. You may be watching the movie. You maybe turning on the TV on instead of doing that thing you want to do because right now that thing that you’re unclear of is at the bottom of the pile.

You Always Have a Really Good Reason To Procrastinate

[00:03:28] And the crazy thing about it is that you always have a really good reason to procrastinate. Right you always have a really good reason. When you think about it because you’re not doing it, for a reason. And the trick is you have to become clear as to what that reason is. OK. Now this takes some time. It takes some thinking it takes some introspection is like OK wait a second, what am I unclear about? Why am I putting this off? Why am I doing these other things on top of or in front of that thing that I really think I should be doing? And that is the key word it’s “should”. Procrastination comes around “shoulds”. I should be mowing the lawn. I should be working out. I should be spending more time with my significant other. I should be sending that e-mail to that person I’ve been thinking about for a while. I should be. You name it. Whatever’s behind a “should” is that thing that you’re not fully clear on. So take some time and get clear. Get clear about what it is you want. Get clear about what it is you don’t want. Right?

Make a Don’t Want List To Get Clear

[00:04:41] Because sometimes having our don’t want list is just as powerful as having our do want list. But just remember this. Everybody procrastinates. Everybody who has goals and ambitions procrastinates. We tend to compare our inside, to somebody else’s outside. Right? You can read about Richard Branson who’s a billionaire and has all these companies and think MY GOD. Richard Branson never procrastinates! You know what, he does. Right. And some of the most successful people that I know procrastinate. Business owners, athletes, they put off all the time! A lot of athletes I grew up with, you know, they’re working out, then they need they know they should be at the gym, but they’d rather sit on the couch. So everybody procrastinates. Don’t beat yourself up over it and just find out what’s behind your “shoulds”. Make a list of things that you’re…become aware of what you’re putting off and then develop some courage to take action on those things. And we’ll talk about courage in other video.

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3 Tips For Managing Time and Feeling Better

3 Tips For Managing Time and Feeling Better

As an Olympic athlete in a timed event I know one very important thing about a ticking clock…

It won’t stop ticking.

Time is like grabbing water.  The harder you squeeze it the more it slips away.  And while people like to think they can “manage” time, they can’t.  They can only “manage” what they do within that time.

Back in the 1990’s Stephen Covey got us all to think that we could drastically manage our time.  With A tasks and B tasks and C tasks, etc. we were taught that if we just put the days tasks into nice little To-do lists that we’d be fine.

We weren’t.

And while it’s nice to think that we can manage time we really can only manage ourselves and what it is we do with our time.

Frustration comes when time slips by and we haven’t really completed anything that we feel is valuable to the goals we feel we should be achieving.

So how do we make sure we’re achieving what it is we truly want?

Decide What It is You Truly Want To Achieve:

You may have a big project you are completing for your J-O-B but what you really want to be doing is feeding starving children in Africa.  That’s fine.  But don’t confuse your achievement goal at work with the achievement goal that is truly in your heart.  If you ignore that for too long you’ll end up with all sorts of issues from chronic pain to colitis.

Complete a Brain Dump of Everything That Is On Your Mind:

Part of what makes us feel so stressed and scattered and not “in the moment” is a feeling that we are forgetting something.  When everything you have to do from picking up your kids after school to organizing your garage is pulling at you attention, it leads to feelings of incompleteness and when you feel incomplete you feel stress.

I keep a Google Doc on my phone that syncs with…well…everything, that is called 1 Brain Dump.  It’s first on the list and when I think of something I need to be, do, or have, it goes on that list for later processing into an appropriate project.  This way I never lose an idea and I never feel like I have some open loop hanging somewhere.  Getting it all out of your head and onto a list that you trust is one way to get a picture of everything that’s on your mind.

Choose One Thing To Take Action On That Helps Fulfill Step #1

We will not go into great detail here about how to organize the list you created in Step #2, but for now you should see something on your list that jumps out at you that you should do…right now.

Do THAT thing.

Because if you don’t do THAT thing you’ll feel incomplete.  It will nag and pull at your psyche until it’s done.  You know you should do it.  You’ll feel better once you do it.  And doing that ONE thing will make you feel…better.

It’s the beginning of something great, and it’s the beginning of managing what you DO within the time that you have.

Start Now

You will only feel good about the time you have to manage when you start managing what you do in the time you have.


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